101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do

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I understand that providing a false declaration under the penalties of perjury is a criminal offense; and Everyone has different limits and boundaries, and it’s important to respect that. Follow our 6 tips to make sure kinky sex is a safe, positive experience for everyone involved:

The term 'kink' was historically used to describe any sexual activity that bends or 'kinks' away from the norm. Even today, some aspects of psychiatry still refer to kinky activities like fetishism, sadism and masochism as " paraphilias", or "abnormal sexual desires", with these normal and consensual behaviours listed alongside things like paedophilia. However, 'kink' is generally now used as a positive term. Even though it might not be like, the healthiest thing emotionally, breakup sex is basically a rite of passage. The angst of the situation elevates the senses, and when it's over, it kinda feels like you're in the uber-dramatic breakup portion of a movie (which is much better than real life, obvi). 103. Have make-up sex. Sensation play can refer to a huge range of activities based on the receiving or withholding of different stimuli. For instance, one partner may blindfold the other to deprive them of their sense of sight, a form of sensory deprivation, or they may drag an ice cube along their skin, a form of sensation play known as temperature play. 8. Orgasm Control Pay attention to what she responds to — and how. For instance, some women may love being called naughty names during the heat of passion, while others may recoil upon hearing those kinds of words. It may take some honest discussions before you jump beneath the sheets together to get a grasp on which words are off limits.

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We spoke to Bodyworker and Sex & Intimacy Coach Libby Sheppard, gynaecologist and co-founder of Hanx Sarah Welsh, and sex and dating expert at The Stag Company Clarissa Bloom, about the pros and cons of exploring kinky sex, plus we share 26 expert tips for beginners on how to enjoy a positive, safe and sexy kink experience: What is kinky sex? It's like a hand job but done with your feet. FWIW: It's best to give your piggies a wash before bestowing your partner with a foot job. Smartphones make it easier than ever to make an X-rated home movie. Even if you watch it once and delete it, you'll always have the experience in your memory. Just make sure to keep digital safety in mind—and that any content stays exclusively on your phone. 24. Have anal sex. Kinky sex covers a whole host of sexy things, from BDSM and power play to fetish and role play. It can be confusing to understand exactly what counts as kinky sex, and how you can do it yourself. So if you're looking to get into kink for the first time, or you want more tips on how to do it safely, here is everything you need to know. Remember: It's important to read up as much as you can before you try anything kinky with a partner. What is kinky sex? It's an on-screen classic for good reason. Whether you go at it with a partner or solo, you gotta find out firsthand why washing machine sex is so majorly hyped. Also, you get to multitask doing your laundry and getting off, which sounds like a pretty successful afternoon if you ask me. 17. Get a yoni massage.

Enemies-to-lovers is a common trope for a reason! The co-workers who can't get along. The stranger who keeps stealing your cab in the morning. The arrogant guy who's dating your sister. Despite your angst over their mere existence, sometimes, hate sex just happens. And when it does? It's usually scorching. 105. Go down on your partner while they’re on an important phone call.

We're not talking about the old cliché blow job tip of popping an ice cube in your mouth before going down on your partner. (Though if that does it for you, by all means go for it!) Ice cubes are the cheapest sex toy around, because it allows you to experiment with hot and cold sensations that can make for an exciting sensory session. Try trailing the ice cube over your partner's body when things get steamy for a chillingly good sensation. 4. Send a racy text. Dominance and submission refer to a consensual erotic power exchange between two (or more) people. Although it may sound scary, due to consent and safety precautions kinkster engage in, a D/S scene can be safer than a vanilla hook-up. "Any time that we are talking about power control, that is the safest kind of sex that partners can have because there's so much communication, trust, and vulnerability built into these kinds of exchanges and sexual experiences," says sex therapist and author of Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life Dr. Holly Richmond. 16. Autonepiophilia OK, so crying during sex—also called a crygasm—is actually super normal. Hopefully, you're crying because the sex is so good/you feel so connected/you're so happy. The mix of clitoral stimulation and oxytocin rush can result in tears that your partner will then oh-so-tenderly brush away. Awww! 102. Have breakup/goodbye sex. You don't need to have a foot fetish to appreciate a woman's feet, and while normally the toes aren't thought of as a particularly erotic area, it's exactly this fact that makes them erotic. If, in the throes of passion, you're so overcome by your desire for her that you take a normally un-sexy part of her body and put it in your mouth, you're communicating your passion to her in an undeniable way. Explore without judgment or shame what you both enjoy, and accept the fact that this process involves some trial and error. At the end of the day, open communication — in and out of the bedroom — is often the best aphrodisiac of all. Consent is key, and it’s important to fully understand what her intentions are if you feel as though she may be coming onto you. If you’re unsure of what she wants, just ask!

The only safe and consensual way to try paraphilia is to (consensually!) add it to your dirty talk. But, maybe wait until you know someone and their preferences before whispering, "I want to cook and eat you alive, honey." 21. Quirofilia You know the idea of vibrating undies sounds sexy as hell. A few fun places to discretely wear them: at a friend's party, at a restaurant, or while at a bar. A not-so-great place to wear vibrating panties: your in-laws' house. 42. Have a boudoir shoot for yourself. Choose a safe word: it's important to establish a safe word so you can swiftly end any scenario you're not comfortable with if things get too much – and don’t be afraid to use it. As with all sex, kink should be completely consensual so if one or both of you isn’t enjoying the experience, use that safe word and stop immediately. Pompoir = squeezing your vaginal muscles during sex for added stimulation. There are lots of ways to do this—Rose recommends using a jade egg to strengthen these muscles—but you can also do this without any fancy toys. Just squeeze!

21. Have some strap-on fun.

Or maybe being the domme is what you’re good at. Grab a leather jumpsuit, your favorite spanking weapon (tip: kitchen utensils make great sex toys), and some BDSM accessories to see if being called "mistress" is your new M.O. 47. Have super slow, tantric sex. Take some time to explore and figure out what porn you like first. The good news is there's tons of ethical, feminist porn out there that's a) super hot and b) won't make you feel grimy because you know everyone involved is being paid fairly and treated respectfully. Once you find something you like, take turns playing show and tell... 63. Take turns reading each other erotica. Yes, shower sex sometimes gets a bad rap because you're in a tight space and it's hard to find the perfect angle. But you actually *can* have good shower sex with a bit of practice. Just make sure you invest in a non-slip mat first so you don't fall, puh-leeze! 80. Have sex in the bathtub.

Sadism refers to a person, a sadist, who gets off on inflicting pain. Their necessary counterpart is masochists, those who get off on receiving erotic pain. As always, S&M relationships require consent from all parties involved. Once all parties feel enthusiastic about what's about to go down, S&M can look like impact play, erotic humiliation, or dripping hot wax on one another. 19. Wax play If you're trying any kind of bondage or dominance and submission, it's crucial that you discuss boundaries and establish a safe word or signal before starting. Dress up and use accessories If you’ve got metal and glass toys, you can run them under cold water for added sensation. If you don’t, you can always play with ice, as Levy suggests. Run an ice cube over your partner’s erogenous zones and then have them do the same to you. You can blow on the skin too for extra oomph. 24. Get into wax play.

26. Get down in public.

When it comes to sexual pleasure, there are plenty of sex toy products out there to help you succeed. The best sex toys for couples can really shake things up in the bedroom, so we’ve curated a list of top-notch sex toys for you and your partner to enjoy. We tapped a handful of experts, too, to give us specific products they like and general things to look for when scoping out toys for you and your boo(s). Plus, if you’re on the hunt for a great sexy gift for your partner (or yourself) this Valentine’s Day, a sex toy is always a good call—trust us. Why use sex toys with a partner? Ready to make a sex tape? Be sure to turn off your sharing, get enthusiastic consent from your partner (and decide what you'll do with the tape after), and start brainstorming names for your future reality show. 8. Film yourself masturbating. You don't have to stop playing make-believe when you grow up. Role-playing means acting out a sexual fantasy with your partner(s), either once or as part of an ongoing fantasy. While it can be a fetish or kink within itself, it's also a healthy way to act out other fantasies. For instance, if you have a medical fantasy and are aroused by doctors, you probably don't actually want your doctor to get sexy with you, because that would be creepy and abusive. The beauty of role-playing is that you can have your partner dress up as a doctor and indulge your fantasy consensually in your own home. 3. Foot Fetish I believe that as an adult it is my inalienable constitutional right to receive/view sexually explicit material; But being curious is completely understandable. That’s why I put together a list of common female sexual desires — to help guys understand that women are often in the unenjoyable position of craving certain things in bed they may not feel they have permission to ask for. Of course all women are different, and there’s absolutely no guarantee that any given one wants any of the below things, let alone all of them.