How To Overcome Findom Addiction: Tips & Strategies To Avoid Financial Domination

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Have I neglected my responsibilities at work, as a family member or friend, or at school due to engaging in findom? I studied this growing fetishistic practice and wrote about it in my recent book — Mistress Pussycat: Adventures with Submissive Men in the World of Femdom. While most submissives crave whips, chains, and physical pain, “money slaves” get off on being insulted and losing financial control.

As part of facing that pain they turn to heroin. Whilst it takes the pain away temporarily, or acts as a welcome distraction, the after-effects of taking it are detrimental. In terms of validation, I don't think that applies to me since I don't have trouble with women and have had a girlfriend for a year currently. I would even lie about myself to a potential findomme and put myself down just because I want to be humiliated and bullied for something. It has made me a bit self destructive.https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0149763494000202 https://www.healthline.com/health/dopamine-addiction#pleasure-chemical Indeed, scratch the surface and start talking to people and you will find a rich vein of those for whom addiction to findom has become a problem in their life. Causing relationship breakdowns, poverty and depression. Unfortunately, for some, this fetish can turn into an unhealthy obsession. Through my online support group, I've met with subs who have lost everything to accommodate the lifestyle of their goddesses. Their addictions have ravaged their finances, relationships, religious affiliation, and physical and emotional health with the same intensity that an addiction to drugs, alcohol, or gambling would. For those that become badly addicted, it’s not hard to also imagine how the addiction itself it may contribute outright to depression?

There are many reasons men become involved in the findom world. Some say the thrill of having a woman demand money and expensive things can be addictive, others that they enter a place where they can forget their worries during an exchange. Whatever it looks like on the surface, the following are a list of just some of the underlying causes of this problem: Being an addict means you’re not in control of your own actions. Which means that enabling their addiction for profit is non-consensual. I feel trapped, I feel lost, I honestly am close to giving up with even trying to quit, it feels impossible. I actually stopped for about 2 months before this but as usual I eventually relapsed again.I can abstain from it for about a month before I relapse and start buying pictures or looking for findommes again. It's kind of a cycle that keeps repeating and I don't feel like I'm getting anywhere. I also think it affects my relationship negatively and I have been keeping it a secret from my partner, which I feel quite guilty about. We have explored some dom/sub dynamics together, but I don't think we are very compatible sexually. See ya never! Forget about sex — just being with a findom IRL (in real life) almost never happens. It is largely conducted largely online. Despite all the gifts and funds he’s given, the fact that a money slave has never even met his goddess is rarely seen as a red flag. A cash cow never ponies up for real need. This kind of guy is negatively impressed by female desperation. Hearing about her overdue rent, medical bills, or student loans makes him turn tail and run. But if he knows the funds are going toward something frivolous or unnecessary, his money is on its way! Avoid environments where you might encounter financial domination. If you find yourself going online and engaging in fin dom when you should be doing work or studying for school, try to complete all your internet-based tasks in a public setting or around a friend or family member in an open area of your home.